We are affected when something does not go to our satisfaction. The consequence: a guilty conscience! We show you how you can deal with it.
A guilty conscience: Where does it come from?
The bad conscience: A constant companion! Who doesn't know this? You've just snacked on a piece of chocolate and already you're feeling guilty. But how exactly does a guilty conscience arise?
We all have certain values and beliefs. We try to live according to these, but we don't always succeed. There is often a difference between feeling and doing. First of all, we have to understand that there is no "right or wrong". You determine what is acceptable for you. In addition, your personal and professional environment has certain expectations of you that you can meet or disregard. With different consequences.
However, the bad conscience always originates within you and is home-made. For example, some people rob banks or riot with violence without feeling bad about it or afterward. In contrast, you already beat yourself up if you didn't buy your friend's favorite cookies for him.
Bad conscience: How does it manifest?
- "This can't happen to me!"
- "How can I ... forget?"
- "I should actually do much more ... ...more!"
- "I can't do it!"
- "Why did I act this way?"
Bad conscience: Why self-confidence is important!
A guilty conscience often manifests itself in feelings of guilt that make you feel bad. Women in particular often look for the fault in themselves and are quick to blame themselves. According to a survey, 96 percent of women feel guilty at least once a day, and 50 percent feel guilty multiple times. Are you one of them?
Guilt usually means we passively dwell in our role and beat ourselves up unnecessarily. A lack of confidence in our own strength leads to procrastination, which further exacerbates the effect of keeping our guilty conscience too much in our heads.
Bad conscience: What triggers it?
- Inner stress and conflict
- Energy is lost
- Affects our behavior - inhibits us from doing things
- We become manipulable
- Mental discomfort/depression
Bad conscience: Always something bad?
Is guilt always bad? Definitely no! A guilty conscience also protects us so that we don't get ourselves into difficult situations without thinking. We evaluate our behavior and get a sense of whether we should adjust it or whether we are happy with it. So it can motivate us to go to the gym, eat healthier, or step it up at work! Learn how to deal with a guilty conscience productively below.
Guilty conscience: Get rid of guilt with these 4 tips!
- Visualize: What's the worst that could happen? Can you deal with it? Most problems exist only in our heads because we constantly feed them with new or repetitive thoughts. You are your own strictest judge. Become calmer and realize that you don't have to worry. Everything will be fine!
- Apologize less: You ask yourself, "Isn't this counterproductive? I'm supposed to take responsibility for my actions!" That's true, but as a rule, women, in particular, apologize far too often for things that aren't their fault in the first place. Empathy and politeness are important but don't overdo it and think about yourself, too. Those who constantly apologize give others and especially themselves the impression that they are doing everything wrong and are not good enough. Even if it's only small trifles.
- Gratitude: Self-confidence is important, but it doesn't come naturally. As the name suggests, it is about trusting yourself. You can do this by setting yourself small goals and achieving them, or at least by giving it your all. This is how you build self-confidence! You can write positive behavior, also in the form of gratitude, in a diary in the evening. If you remind yourself of your strengths and what's great about life every night before you go to sleep, you'll feel guilty less often.
- Correct handling: The bad conscience does not come from nowhere. Have you violated your values? Are you putting something off? Get to the bottom of what triggered it and resolve it as soon as you can. Get the conversation you're afraid of over with. Start learning instead of procrastinating for a long time. Guilt arises when you consciously direct your actions against your convictions. And if you can't do anything about the bottom of the self-blame anyway, then put it aside from all the more!
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